Have you ever felt that your burdens were too big to bear? Too great to overcome? That this affliction happening to you was only bringing pain and suffering? I have spoken with many clients and friends who feel this way. I used to be in the same boat. It wasn’t until I realized that our lives can be changed when we shift our perspective in how we look at our afflictions. I have learned that the greater the affliction, the greater the opportunity to learn, change, and become arises. Your unbearable burden may be exactly what you need and chose to experience so you might progress at a faster rate and change in a greater capacity than would be possible by other circumstances. A wonderful way to start changing your heart is by shifting your perspective.
Heartache at the hands of others-
People can be rude. Selfish. Hurtful. Unkind. Neglectful. Cruel. They can cause real damage to you on a physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual level from their choices. Some of my greatest life lessons have been taught by experiencing difficult afflictions at the hands of others. A friend once shared with me a teaching that opened my eyes and changed my heart. This friend shared that when others are afflicting us, it is because they are suffering.
They are suffering-
This concept and realization healed my angry, broken-heart and filled it with compassion and love. Inherently as children of God, we don’t want to see any living being suffering. Our Heavenly Father is light, love, truth, and compassion. As God source energy as His spirit children, those traits dwell within us all. Often we bury them up as we experience and chose to become hardened by life. But as we utilize the atonement of Jesus Christ, we can remove those barrier walls we created and can come into alignment with Him and those godly traits within. When we turn inward and become aware of the compassion, it truly changes hearts. It changed mine. You no longer see yourself as a victim, left hurt and broken. You become the one offering Christ like love because you see their pain. I believe this is one of the reasons Christ taught us to love our enemies. Tuning into that love breaks down the hurt and sorrow your enemy has caused you. It turns your heart towards compassion for the suffering they have experienced. As you see their pain, it is natural to wish that their suffering would leave them. This shift in paradigm of the person afflicting you, helps you to forgive and release negative energy that separates you from God.
This love and compassion is exactly what everyone needs-
We need to not only extend this love and compassion to others afflicting us, but also extend it to ourselves! We are so hard on ourselves. Be kind. Be loving. Forgive others. Forgive yourself. We are never failing. Every obstacle is an opportunity for growth if we look at it this way. I love the saying that practice makes progress! This life is about becoming as our Father in Heaven. Again, He is light, love, and truth. So instead of being filled with anger and hurt, give the pain to Christ. Shift your perspective. Tune into your inner compassion to see the suffering of others so both of your lives might be healed and changed. Choose (yes it is a choice!) to have your afflictions bless your progress in this beautiful, growth experience called life.